Saturday, June 13, 2009

How Did This Happen?


It's peculiar how personally familiar the picture seems. The girl in the gown resembles me, only more beautiful, and younger than I ever remember being at 17.
It's surreal to think that it's been almost 17 years since she was toddling around, her bottle hanging from her mouth as she crept along the furniture, looking for new things to explore in our small living room.
Yesterday, she loaded an overnight bag, her brother, and some friends into her Toyota Camry and drove some 150 miles to go see her dad.
I'm sad at how empty the nest feels, and so thrilled and proud that she's learning to fly.

Thursday, April 9, 2009

Only Shadow Knows...

Or, Last Friday’s Pizza Incident.

It was a warm and sunny, spring-like evening when the three teens at my house convinced me that ordering pizza would be a good idea. I conceded, only because I had coupons.

So, I ordered two pizzas—a veggie with sausage, and an olive and bell pepper—while Katie, Jesse, and Leathon went back to their adolescent endeavors in The Man Cave.

When the pizza guy pulled up, I was stricken by the sheer size of the vehicle. It was a jacked up Chevy Suburban. The kids, all recognizing the pizza guy as Shadow, a former school mate, came to the door and chatted with Shadow while I transacted cash and coupons for savory pizza pies.

They learned that he was now attending continuation school. And that the behemoth vehicle he was driving actually belonged to his dad. Something was amiss with his usual ride.

Somehow, in the course of the transaction, we wound up with the wrong pizzas. As soon as one of the boys opened the box, I was on the phone with the pizza company, asking them to phone Shadow and send him back to swap us for the correct pizzas.

The kids began cracking ‘stay in school’ jokes, noting that apparently continuation school does not give one “mad” pizza delivery skills.

Shadow showed back up some minutes later, and exchanged pizzas. The new ones were much closer to what we actually ordered, minus the sausage on the veggie, but at that point, I wasn’t going to complain. Especially when Jesse told me, “Mom, I took a bite out of one of those other pizzas.”

Yikes. I’m now wondering if the people who originally ordered the multi-meat marvels noticed. Or if we’ve been crossed off the good customer list at the pizza company.

Hmmmm… Probably only Shadow knows…

Thursday, March 26, 2009

Butt Dialing is Not for the Weak

So, we've all seen the T-Mobile commercial where the guy sitting on the couch moves his hind end just so, and the buttons on the phone in his pocket dial his girlfriend's phone.

Funny stuff. Funnier still when the call comes in to my desk, and its from a back pocket or a backpack or something at my daughter's school. I listened to five minutes of high school life between passing bells today.

I learned that **** and ***** are going out this weekend, and that ***** is mad because she never meant for the two of them to hook up in the first place when she introduced them.

I learned that no fewer than four people failed to do their homework for the class that was about to start, and that one female actually did her homework, but, "Ohmigawd it was SOOOO hard and it was almost impossible to get it done and still have time to finish uploading all the new iTunes before the prices go up," and then ***** called her and she so f***ing couldn't believe it because she's been wanting him to call for f***ing EV-ERRRRRRR.

And I learned that my daughter cracks good jokes.

All this was very intriguing, but sort of a strange way to peer into another's life as well.

Sunday, March 15, 2009

The Texters' Dilemma

I know that we live in a more tribal culture these days—sharing small, day-to-day details about our lives, via FaceBook, MySpace, Tweeter, texts, blogs, and so on. On some levels, I think it brings about a sense of connectedness that we wouldn’t otherwise have.

And there’s convenience. I thoroughly appreciate that I have the ability to text family members with quick messages. I don’t really need a whole phone conversation to say, “Don’t forget to take out the trash.”

This being said, there are some things that shouldn’t be shared via text. Sometimes it’s a case of just too much information. Sometimes, it’s a case of technology’s inability to replace a warranted face-to-face conversation. Below are some real life examples culled from my own experiences, and those of friends.

Things That Should Not Be Texted:

“No baby yet… just got an epidural.”

“I’m in the airport bathroom taking a dump. Gonna go now, it stinks in here.”

“My pants are wet. You know, THAT kinda wet. Gotta go.”

“It’s not you… it’s me… this just isn’t working out.”

“Will you marry me?”

“I’m with XXX in his car. I’ll call you when I get my pants back on.”

Sunday, January 25, 2009

Another Item to Talk About...

Yes, yes, I'll get to catching everyone up on the DC trip, but first...


A student at Foothill High School took his own life last Thursday. A former co-worker mentioned it to me, but had few details. I have been unable to confirm a name, therefore won't print it.


I know that it's standard newspaper policy not to report on suicides. I get the notion that we don't want to collectively glamorize such tragedies. However, I think this is growing to be something of an antiquated notion. Twenty years ago and more, when the media outlets were largely the only way we received news, this made sense.


But now, people-- kids especially-- are texting, phoning, tweetering, MySpacing, Facebooking, blogging, and otherwise discussing these current events when they happen. We owe it to ourselves, and especially our youth, to be having open dialogue about these tragedies when they occur.


By remaining silent, we are communicating to our teens that suicide is an acceptable solution to life's pressures and challenges. By remaining silent, we are quietly communicating that the emotional wreckage that suicide leaves behind for grieving families is okay.


These things are NOT OKAY.

Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem or challenge.


I urge readers to keep an eye on kids, neighbors, loved ones. Be a friend to others. Take action if you see someone in your sphere of influence exhibiting signs of depression or warning indications of suicide.

If you know the family who lost this child, find some kind way to show them that they are on your mind. Help affirm for them their child's life.

Monday, January 19, 2009

The Inaugural Kick-Off

Yesterday, the president-elect, his #2 guy, their families, and a whole host of enthusiastic artists welcomed legions of people to this week's inaugural events. Various outlets-- Salon.com, Washington Post, National Park Service-- put the number of people on the Washington Mall at between 400,000 and 800,000 souls. I tend to lean toward the higher number myself. To give yourself a mental picture, envision every person who lives in Sacramento squished into the 2 mile space between the Lincoln Memorial and the Capitol. This is a small snippet of what it looked like:





People began showing up at 8:00 a.m. for the 2:30 p.m. event. We got there around 11:00 or so. We had a lot of time to pass, so people took to their usual avocations in situations like this:

Katie just chillin'




Young people hacky sacking.

While we were waiting, we watched images from one of more than a dozen jumbo-tron screens, including video clips of Americans from everywhere talking about what America means to them, what change what means to them, and other vignettes of inspiration. The theme of the event was, "We Are One".

One of the things that struck me, was that there were several clips from Barack Obama, taped the day before from his whistle stop tour, where he was speaking directly to us at the Mall, encouraging us to be patient, that he would be there soon, and to stay warm. I was impressed by that.

I thought about what would have been on my mind that day if I were in his shoes—what I would be saying at the next stop, remembering that it was my wife’s birthday that day, checking after my two young children, getting briefings about events and issues, planning for Tuesday’s inaugural address, taking pains not to spill anything on myself, etc. And yet, he also remembered us, and that we would be waiting for him in the cold. He is about to be leader of the free world, and yet, we are on his mind. How refreshing!

As the Mall filled up, there were people crowded everywhere. If you look into the background of this picture, you will see people sitting on top of the porta-potties to get a direct view of the stage at the Lincoln Memorial. Not sure I would have made that trade-off. The jumbo-tron view-- without the porta-potty smell-- was fine by me!

The concert kicked off with Bruce Springsteen singing The Rising. Most everyone in the crowd was singing along.

The rest of the entertainment was woven together with other performers-- Stevie Wonder, Denzel Washington, Mary J. Blige, Steve Carrell, Jamie Foxx, Jon Bon Jovi, James Taylor, Jon Legend, John Mellencamp, Will.i.am, Sheryl Crow, Herbie Hancock, Garth Brooks, Tiger Woods, Shakira, Forest Whittaker, Tom Hanks, U2, Queen Latifah, and Pete Seeger.

I was impressed by how even the stars held fast to the common purpose Obama says binds us all. When some of the comedians came forward to address the crowd, many of us held our breaths, panicked that we might hear them cutting up during this auspicious event. And yet, Steve Carrell gave a rousing reading from the writings of Abraham Lincoln. For all that Steve Carrell might be, and for the narrow scope of ways in which we identify to him, he too, believes in the change that Obama is brining to our nation.

Another thing that struck me, is that as the event unfolded, the cameras would cut to the Obamas, and they were doing the same thing as the rest of us! When Stevie Wonder was singing, everyone around me was dancing and moving to the music, and so were the Obamas. It was another confirmation that they are us, and we are them. We are One.

Obama gave an amazing speech at the end of the event, encouraging us to take responsibility for ourselves, and one another, and to remain in unity as we all strive to make America the place that we know it can me.

As we were leaving, I saw a small act of that very sentiment in action. Both Katie and Jesse were shocked, and revolted as we went to leave, and we saw all the trash being left behind. Jesse said, "Mom, this is our national monument!"

Katie picked up a cardboard box that had been intended to be a trash receptacle, and had instead been used as a ground cover for seating on the dry grass.

Without saying a word, the kids began picking up trash in our area and assembling trash receptacles to remedy the problem. We cleaned up a wide area around where we had been sitting, and then headed out with the rest of the huge crowd.

It occurred to me, that the kids had just done the very thing that Obama is calling us to:

Be responsible for yourselves. Be responsible for others. Pitch in. Get the job done.

It really is that simple.

Today has been proclaimed as a national day of service. I hope all of you will find a way to do just that. It doesn't have to be a big deal. Call a friend and make sure they are doing okay. Pick up litter in your neighborhood. Make America the place we want it to be.

I'll post more pics soon. For now, we're off to take in more of the nation's capital.

Saturday, January 17, 2009

By Popular Demand...

Because so many of you have asked, below are pictures of the infamous bucks' heads... and of the boy in his sister's sweats until his pants show up!






And I can't tell you enough how chilly it is here! Everyone's bundled up... including our darling Katy...